Yesterday Feb24th we arrived at Rochester about the same time my bhai ( older brother from India) and my nephew Vivek ( Babi's son ) from Chicago arrived. My treatment , both Radiation & chemotherapy started today with Ambi, bhai & Vivek by my side, bonding more than ever, very touching indeed. Recently I have had brief , passing worry regading my upcoming treatment. I snapped out of it real quick since that is so much against my current belief that I am trying daily to practice & live by. Having left all events & their outcomes in the hands of a power greater than myself ( who I choose to call God), it is such a waste of time to spend on worrying about something I have no control on. Trying to live one day at a time, I always remember the poem written by Kalidas, an Indian poet from 4th century AD. He wrote:
Look to this day, for it is life, the very life of life,
In it's brief course lie all the realities & varieties of existence,
The bliss of growth,
The splendor of action, and
The glory of power-
For yesterday is but a dream,And tomorrow is only a vision,
But today, well lived,
Makes every yesterday a dream of happiness,
And every tomorrow a vision of hope.
Look well, therefore, to this day.
This site has become an important event in our everyday's schedule. It is an unique combination of love, concern, emotion, compassion, hope, spirituality & even some humor. I am not used to so much so soon, hence these are sometimes overwhelming & bring out certain emotions in me that I was unaware of. Overall I am enjoying all the attention ! ( haha). Ambi ofcourse heads the list. With her relentless efforts she has all my lost wt. regained ! Only one thing that often bothers me is - how much more grief so many people around me are going through than I am myself. I appeal to you all, please do yourself a favor- put an end to tears & move along with life as usual . It is unfair to yourself & others around you if you keep agonizing in the pains that have passed or that may ( or maynot) occur in future. I am sure even the Gods will not want that. See , living a day at a time can be so easy & practical. I hope you will give a serious thought.
My treatment is one day less than six weeks. Today was excellent. We had a very full , delicious dinner at a local Indian restaurant & plan to see a movie tomorrow night. Untill side effects appear, we plan enjoying our days with eachother & our family members who plan to visit from time to time. I have been prescribed several medicines for potential side effects. We will try to deal with them when they happen. The chemotherapy will be once a week , & radiotherapy daily Monday thru Friday for six weeks.I invite all of you to continue participating & maintaining such an unique atmosphere which is strengthening our bonds, drawing us progressively closer. I thank God for such an oppertunity.
Let's pray together for:
Granting peace, serenity & happiness to mankind.
Knowledge of His will for us & power to carry that out.
Relieving our bondage of self , so that we may better do His will.
Because ultimately Thy will (not our) be done.
Untill next time , all of you- take care. We love you all more than you know.
SACHI.
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sanabhai my dearest brother, n my angel nuabou, ...i was overjoyed to
hear ur pleasant voice today.it sounded so cheerful n lively...u r great sanabhai..keep it up!...its wonderful..i feel so happy my dear u ll c these 6 weeks will pass in this manner(ofcourse if HE WILLS N HE HAS TO WILL)..I JUST CANT WAIT THESE 6 weeks to pass...i am waiting to see my strongest brother back in lincoln..stronger than before...O GOD THERE DO U HEAR ME...NO "EEDHAR UDHAR" YOU HAVE TO KEEP YOUR WORD...HEAL MY BROTHER COMPLETELY...
i loved to go through ur message..it was really mind blowing...what mental strength u have my brother..how spiritual u have bcome..these days i really love to converse with u...
my dear angel...i am always with u..so ur efforts gave result so soon...u made my brother gain all the weight he had lost, within no time! i just cant imagine.
its true i am hear , but my mind n spirit r near both of u...all the time thinking... praying..nwishing all the best. love sini n sanju
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Our prayers and best wishes are with all of you - this is a great way to keep in touch with everyone. We'll check back frequently.
Dear Sati mamu & Ambi main,
Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength.
And your strength comes not so much from your physical capacity(no doubt you have loads of that too) but from an indomitable will.
You both have been an inspiration to us all....truly shown everyone what it means to smile in the face of adversity.
We are proud of you and wish you all the very best for the future.
Love,
Seema,Sandeep,Anamika & Salas
You and your families positive attitude has definitely been inspirational during this life changing event. I am glad to hear you are doing so well. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless.
Dear Sachi bhai & Ambiji,
It was very nice seeing and talking to you both last Saturday morning before you left for Rochester. Your calmness, energy, strength, and hospitality really amazed us.
We are glad to know that your treatment has started and things are moving along well. With God’s grace, the six weeks will pass very fast and you will be back in Lincoln soon and we’ll have the same fun and laughter as it used to be. Your strong will power and faith in God will make things go smoothly. We sincerely pray the Almighty to make the whole treatment as painless as possible and successful.
With love and respect,
Asit & Runu
You have your mind wrapped wonderfully around this experience. Our family has and continues to pray for you each day. The kids can pronounce Ma-ha-pa-tra really well. You are an inspiration. This blogsite is great.
God's peace and guidance, Mike and Virg
“All of us cannot be great. But we can always associate with someone who is”.....
Hence, by association with the likes of you and Badada I too am great !!
The voice that has risen from the depth of your being to word your latest message indicates the beauty of your thoughts and heartfelt concern for others. If the readers, who obviously are people known closely to you, are moved or touched, is it not human and natural? So, why do you urge upon them to check their emotional overflow? Like Badada always reminds us, when we cry for somebody, we are basically crying for ourselves. I agree. But so long as we find ourselves caged in this mortal frame of ours' the insecurities will continue and the expression shall persist..... But not all the tears that flow are meant for the Self. A few, I believe, are also dedicated to prayers for the well being of our loved ones. While being largely cathartic they also serve to intensify our efforts to make a difference. Therefore, as we all get on with our respective lives and respond to our individual demands, let us emote and express in our own peculiar ways too.....
We can only understand and appreciate what you are going through, but cannot feel what you live, enjoy or suffer through. The words that we use to express our care can only comfort, not cure....We can only buy health insurance policies, but I only wish we could similarly acquire a pain insurance cover too...!
Two days of treatment down and a few more to go before you return to base and resume your routine--- fit, slim, healthy and happy as usual. By God's grace you have weathered it very well so far, and judging by your enviable level of endurance we are sure you will brave the remaining sessions with equal tolerance.
All the very best. May God be with you.
Pranams & Prayers
Babi & Vicky
dearest tarzan brother n darling nuabou, ....what a surprise we got when we received the wonderful anniversary card from both of u.the surprise was really pleasant n overwhelming...being in so much of anxiety, apprehension n mental tension how could u remember our anniversary?...its a life changing event for u both..O GOD! i cant imagine..rightly babi said-- only great people like u can do this...thankyou very much, my dear ones..we loved it.
2nd day of treatment has passed successfully...thank GOD...unless i hear ur voice i am not at peace..what to do???pls excuse me dears...its so nice to hear ur voice so clear n cheerful.O GOD!PLS KEEP MY BROTHERS SPIRIT HIGH LIKE THIS FOR NEXT 6 WEEKS N FOR EVER...
seema has rightly said,"u both have been a an inspiration to us all...we r proud of u.
i pray nearTHE LORD TO MAKE UR TREATMENT PAINLESS N SUCCESSFUL.
All my thoughts, love, best wishes, prayers, Reike,n Japam r with u, my darling brother....love sini n sanju
Sachi,
Your courage and beliefs are going to get you and Ambi through this difficult time. You are perfectly right, why to worry about something which is not in your control. In fact none of us knows what is going to happen in next minute, forget days. Good thing is that the right treatment has started. Six weeks will go by quickly and you will be back in Lincoln on your way to full recovery.
Our prayers and best wishes are with you. I tell Gurjeet everyday that I am sure Sachi is going to fully recover. Best thing working for you your loving family and your always upbeat attitude. It is all in hands of man upstairs, but don't forget that God only helps those, who help themselves.
Keep us updated everyday on this blog.
Avtar-Gurjeet
Dear Bada dada,
I don't think I can articulate very well the thoughts and emotions this note of your's brought on. But this much I can say - the pride I feel in you is beyond words. Lately, everybody had been talking of the transformation you have undergone in your thinking and how spiritual you have become. Now I know exactly what they all meant. I can only hope and pray that you continue to connect with the divinity within and tap into the depths of faith that you have come to recognise within yourself.
Just imagine - here we all are - terrified of what you are going through, and there you are - the person in the eye of the storm, so to speak, all calm and composed, asking us not to bother or spend time worrying about you!! I don't think anybody will be able to do that, Bada dada. So if you really want us to get on with our lives, you need to get back to your's first. Deal?
All the very best to both of you.
Love & prayers,
Pinky
Dear Jijaji,
Tried calling you and didi on the phone today but the call just won't go through. May be it happened for me to start my account on this blog. It is wonderful to know that you are cheerful and so philosophical about the whole situation. It gives us a lot of courage. Yet one realizes how difficult it must be for you to bear the paradoxical treatment - although life-saving but very harsh.
I wanted to share a management tip that was told to me by a friend, who had nursed two of her family members with cancer to full recovery. When you get burning sensation in the skin because of radiation, you can try putting a lettuce leaf over there. It absorbs the heat and has a very cooling effect. Change the leaf when it becomes hot. I hope it helps.
Remember you are in our thoughts every minute, and mummy-daddy and I are praying to our own Gods in our own ways for your smooth journey to recovery.
Dear didi,
I know that at this time you need as much holding as jijaji for "holding" on by yourself all this time. It is nice to know that bada bhai and Vivek are there. I am glad that I will also be much closer to you and jijaji in about a fortnight. Do not forget to take good care of yourself.
With lots and lots of love to both of you,
Bablee
P.S. Reviews of the films watched would be appreciated!!
Dearest Sanabhai & Nuabou,
Pranam!
It was a treat going through your blog message so full of nice thoughts and spiritual teachings.
Sanabhai, portions of your mail seem to us like a religious discourse enlightening and thought-provoking. It is apparent you are practicing "Sampoorna Saranagati" (complete surrender to Him) which is the ultimate thing that we too try to practice but not always successfully.
We are happy and relieved to know that your treatment has started and is progressing well.
Sanabhai, don't worry about us. We are now much more composed and hopeful. We pray to God for your safe and successful treatment for a complete recovery.With each passing day we feel the disease is inching away from you.
It is apparent from your message that God's blessings are now fully with you giving you strength, harmony, joy, happiness and rest to cope well with your treatment while enjoying your life with Nuabou,Badabhai and Vivek.
The entire family is grateful and beholden to Ambi nuabou for taking such excellent care to uplift you both physically and mentally. A wife in need ia a wife indeed.May God especially bless her.
It is clear now that you are facing the situation with fortitude and without fear. We pray and believe that nothing will prove too hard for you to bear in your battle against the ailment like Arjuna (your namesake Mr.Sabyasachi).
MAY HEAVEN'S CHOICEST BLESSINGS BE SHOWERED UPON YOU AND YOUR LOVING FAMILY.
Love & regards,
Nandini and Swarup
Hello Parents. Hope you all are doing well. Suraj, Torry and I are doing great. All of us are taking care of the house AND homework(mom)....We manage to get a movie or some video games in here or there. I'll have you know that we havent ate out once, its all your food for now, but that could soon change once the weekend comes! Im glad you all are enjoying your selves while Dad is still doing good. DAD: Hope you are doing well, and its good that your staying positive, we are too. After all even Bo Pelini knows your a tough guy so you doing want to dissapoint the head coach of the Huskers now do you!! Can't wait to come see you in a few weeks. Until then keep having a good time and I will most likely talk to you all later. Goodbye! Love you all very much!
Sachi and Ambi -
We wanted to let you know you are in our thoughts and prayers. Being able to follow your progress in this blog is a real treasure. Our love to you both and of course, to Jeff and Jyoti as well.
Brad and Carol Walters
Hi guys, I can't compete with this eloquent and heartfelt writing of your family and friends, I feel like I say the same thing all the time but I can't keep quiet (HA). I have been reading a book and thought of you all, what you are going through and where you are going. You have said it so many times, all of you, through your journaling. Trust the Lord with all your HEART...He will make your path straight. Proverbs3:5-6 I pray that God will make your journey straight and smooth, with knowing he will help you if there are obstacles and get you all through. Your friend, Janelle
Dear Sachibhai and Bhabiji,
Namaskar.I am Dr Prasant mohanty. i met you and bhabiji in PGI chandigarh around in April 1974.Jitu in your neighbourhood,is my sister in law. I always wanted to speak to you in person but my visit has not yet happened.Jeetu always updates me with your progress.
At this hard time, I pray for your painless speedy and goodrecovery.
Prasant and Bini
Hi! Just checking in and letting you know I'm still here and thinking of you. Sachi, tomorrow will be my last day before starting nights. Rebecca has decided to come on board also. I think it will be a good thing. Abbie had a severe ankle sprain last nite so we are dealing with rest, ice, compression and elevate, any other suggestions from a formmer athlete? We had a conference tonight about Andy and he is doing very well. Take care and stay strong. Your friend, Janelle
Dr. Mahapatra and family - Thank you all so much for the communication. You are all so blessed to have each other. Counting down the days til you are back in Lincoln and hoping your days pass uneventfully. Your words of wisdom do not go unnoticed and I find them to be very inspirational. Just wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sachi and Ambi,
By the way, I forgot to mention that the entire Cath Lab is thinking of both of you and we miss you tremendously.
Sachi and me joined the Medical College some 45 years ago to pursue our dreams to become Physicians.In the course of years, even though we have drifted apart with our own worlds and lives, we have kept intouch.The several meetings we had were very pleasant and sweet. We always looked forward to the future ones.
It is comforting to know that Sachi is handling well to the side effects of Chemo & Radiation. Hey Dengu you are the strongest Guy I have known from Medical College. Keep it that way. We are praying for a speedy recovery. We love you.
Manju and Brajendra Misra
Dear Ambi auntie and Sachi Uncle,
You two are one of the most wonderful people I have met. I am praying and wishing for even more health and happiness. You are in my thoughts.
Much love,
Angie Singh
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